Dani flexing her ED treatment stays
By - pineapples_are_evil
For Christ’s sake 🤣 they ask everyone to sign a living will even if you’re in the ER for a bad tooth ache. No Dani. That’s not how this works at all 🤣
Is this the only places she mentioned? Because according to her old IG there were a lot more.
You're right. There are some missing, but these were the only ones listed in insta
I am very surprised as she used to claim she was the worst anorexic her doctors had ever seen. Apparently they've never seen Ashley Isaacs.
so… she posts “nonchalantly” about having to sign a living will, but every hospital i’ve been to for every stupid reason has at the very least asked me if i had one. i am 22 and relatively healthy. it’s not that big of a deal, and the doctors asking you about it doesn’t mean they think you’re going to die, sweetie.
Yeah it’s pretty standard. Especially if you’re single/don’t have close family/don’t have someone who knows your wishes in the event that you become incapacitated.
Just want everyone to realize that eating disorders do not discriminate by body size. People can have anorexia and be overweight. People can have anorexia and look completely “normal”. People can have bulimia and be morbidly obese. People can have binge eating disorder and be underweight. EDs come in all shapes and sizes, and there are many other EDs beyond just the ones I listed above.
Sources: a decade of struggling with my own eating disorder, and the past two years of my ED recovery.
I think when people think anorexia they only think about anorexia nervosa, not atypical anorexia.
I don’t think anyone here doubts Dani’s ED claims. The issue is she uses her medical devices to fuel her ED, pretending to have other disorders instead. Plus it’s kinda weird to flex about inpatient.
What, exactly, is she diagnosed with to have a feeding line she barely uses?
Whatever the opposite of failure to thrive is.
She thrive too much. Hyperthrithia.
Pshhh when I was in in-patient rehab I met a girl who had been to something like 12 different treatment centers
Dani has been to 13. So she wins.
For those commenting, asking about a living will because they’re not familiar with it, some places use the term “advance directive” in place of “living will”. It is a standard question asked by just about every hospital, we in EMS even have to ask about it. If the patient is interested, we have to notify the hospital upon transfer that they want either paperwork explaining, or someone to assist them in filling one out. Two of the hospitals here have ready made kits, completely printed out and in a nice folder that they give to everyone upon registration, even those in the ER for things like N&V, needing sutures, that likely won’t need an admission.
In every hospital family / friends have been in they are always asked if they have a Living Will OR an Advanced Directive ( the kits I’ve seen have both the words Living Will & Advanced Directive on the Packet).
It’s wise to fill these out ( at your discretion) so that your wishes are carried out as you want.
Yep, it’s a great way to protect health care for partners that aren’t legally married. Without it, your significant other might not have any say in your health care, by filing a legal advanced health care directive, it can solve a lot of possible issues, especially if you have family members that don’t have your best interest at heart…!
Belmont? Like the Klarman Center at McLean hospital in Belmont, MA?
No it's a psych hospital/crisis center on the border of Philadelphia and bala cynwyd, it's not posh at all. Its private but not pricey
I've been there. Insurance covers it.
I just meant it's not a state hospital its private but not like...a good one
I know \^\^ Sorry if I seemed rude. Just saying insurance covers it, nothing special at all. Standard hospital almost. Has a mental health section, not the worst if you are poor. But not the best. Far from best.
Been to Belmont as an EMT. the WORST when it came to intakes. I had to wait 90 min with a patient once. Pretty standard bland bare inpatient unit digs, but if they will look right through you during intake it feels…not condusive to healing.
YES. An EMT in my company spent TWO HOURS waiting to transfer care at Belmont.
It could have been that long. It was a few years back lol. A lot of places would hesitate to take care from you but Belmont was the WORST. (Save for the CSU that would get mad we weren’t there for a pickup….because we were waiting for them to let us in with our intake)
these people need productive hobbies
Anyone can sign a living will. I, for example, do not want invasive live support if my coma is triggered by the content of this sub. If it gets that bad I simply don't want to regain my senses.
Also in my living will is a clause asking for a sensitive eulogy to be done by a close personal friend. THIS. THIS IS EASY FOR ME.
If I have to suffer so should the audience at my funeral.
So what's the big deal about being asked to sign a Living Will? Don't hospitals usually ask this question of adults? They do where I reside.
You're right, my local ER and pre-admits all ask you about CPR, if you have a DNR, do you want one, and if any one else they can contact to be your decision maker.
Come back when you've made a real and binding will. Which, if you don't really have assets or children/dependant animals is really easy.
There's a pretty cookie cutter basic version in most states and provinces. Dad dragged me out at 19 to get one when I signed my first loans, no assets then, but debts. Dumb assignment like basically in writing, sell my stuff and use to pay debts. If I have nieces and nephews divide any assets between them, accessible for school at 17, or otherwise at 21. Blah blah.
A proper written living will may or may not be legal in your area. It might only be legal if done to certain specific things. Personally if I was chronically ill enough to be worrying about specifics past "do I want full or part CPR", then yes, having it in writing would be helpful. Especially if you have already had that conversation about if it doesn't look good you don't want to be on life support longer than 2 weeks, or do A but not B. If C happens, just give me end if life care. Hopefully she's able to have that discussion with her family...
Living will in context of a patient is different from one's official will regarding estate... are you being fastidious?
It's a standard question in my area.
Edit: added detail
I appreciate your laughter however it’s pretty standard for the nurse to ask this question when U R admitted where I reside in the Midwest. I didn’t say the hospital MADE anyone fill out a Living Will, However, it’s pretty standard practice to be asked if you have a Living Will and IF you state that you do not have one( a Living Will) the hospital will give you information about it. Of course, after you’ve been given the information it’s up to you to either fill it out etc. Apparently, you’re confused as to what a Living Will & a Will is. A Living Will has nothing to do with your assets.
Below is what a "Living Will" is:
***A living will is a type of written legal document called a medical advance directive. It describes the medical care you want in certain situations. Some medical treatments can prolong your life, even when recovery is not possible.***
BTW...as OP pointed out,a Living Will MAY not be legal in the state you live in.
I really am not into fat shaming and you night still struggle with disordered eating Dani, but you're OVERWEIGHT. please stop with the so smol so helpless can't eat anything narrative. Stop living in the past. Jesus Christ it's just pathetic.
You can be overweight and have an eating disorder, you can even be overweight and anorexic.
You can definitely be overweight with anorexia like tendencies, but at that point it would fall under EDNOS, not anorexia.
I get your point, just clarifying the terminology. To be diagnosed with anorexia, you have to have a qualifying BMI, so you literally can't be anorexic and overweight.
The criteria to diagnose anorexia dictate one must be less than their ideal weight and is usually defined by BMI. She could have an eating disorder not otherwise specified (ED-NOS) but not straight up anorexia.
She could have atypical anorexia, which is*the exact same thing* but without the weight requirement.
You should probably look it up before replying, bc it's a thing.
Would you mind citing your diagnostic source? The criteria I use as a physician is DSM-V and I do not have any sort of billing code or diagnosis label in my repertoire called “atypical” anorexia. Always open to be corrected.
As another poster said, AAN is under OSFED in the DSM-V. if you use the ED category of diagnosing clients then you should give it another look, since you were unaware of its existence.
We use "ED-NOS" as the catch-all for disorders that don't meet the criteria for the major EDs like anorexia and bulimia. Hashing out exactly what the pt's ED-NOS is by specific label is typically reserved for pediatric eating disorder specialists, psychiatrists, or psychologists as they're also the treating providers (my field doesn't treat that).
ednos isn't even in the be dsm5, it's OSFED now.
Atypical Anorexia falls under ED-NOS
Yeah that's why I said she still might struggle. Read please.
I read it.
But if you have to put, "I'm not into fat shaming" followed by calling someone overweight, it's fat shaming.
And if you have to put "might still struggle with disordered eating" vs "has an eating disorder" you are being dismissive of the severity and I felt compelled to comment because I don't like the rampant misconception that only serious eating disorder are visible.
So how do you describe someone as overweight without fat-shaming?
You just... don't comment on body size at all.
If it's actually relevant and needed for context/perspective, say "in a higher weight body."
in fact, being obese is a sign of extreme malnutrition. it means you're getting too much of the wrong nutrients and not enough of those toxins are being filtered out, because the obese person usually is not getting enough movement.
typically, a lot of what creates the visuals of an obese body are due to inflammation, which is caused by consuming bad/highly processed foods. So obesity in any form is a kind of eating disorder. bodies are not built to carry that weight, so it's a clear indication something is wrong whether it's diet or activity level. inflammation in the body is what causes a lot of the symptoms these people are experiencing.
If you have a functioning liver and kidneys your body is filtering "toxins" just fine
So…*swelling*? A la Bethany??!? Really?
It’s a combination of excess fat and inflammation
Get outta here with your mystical mumbo jumbo
I am new to Dani was she much thinner in the past?
She was anorexic, and continues to post body checks of herself from that period. They can be found by searching her flair. (TW—lots of body checks). She really was very sick with anorexia, and now considers herself “healed”. But her extremely disordered eating continues as she uses GP to restrict calories and manipulate everyone around her, though her main target now seems to be getting over on her “medical team”.
Her disordered eating no longer makes her smol and fragile, and she’s become unhealthily attached to the whole ritual of administering TPN of extremely questionable necessity, and finding “her people” in online communities. She’s 100% still deep into an ED, and it’s very frustrating to hear her both brag about “years of recovery”, and pretend that she’s still some delicate pro-ANA flower of a teenage anorexic.
Thank you for the explanation! I know what TPN stands for but idk exactly how it works, what is she doing that is different from how it’s prescribed? Thank you so much for your answers and letting me pick your brain I’m new to the ED munchies.
She doesn’t really need it, considered my that she eats orally, as evidenced by countless incidences of food wrappers. She has the TPN because she runs her non TPN tube feeds at such a low rate that she forces her doctors into giving her TPN because she’s manipulatively “starving” herself.
TPN is a last ditch treatment and is carefully calibrated to keep you at a target weight. Usually, people on TPN are still quite underweight due to the serious medical issues they’re dealing with that led them to be on TPN. Medical issues that Dani simply doesn’t have.
For Dani to be *over*weight while on TPN suggests that she’s not being honest about how much she’s eating orally, and that this whole TPN/toob feed rigamarole she’s got going on is one big munchie manipulation to feed her obsession with needing medical interventions, getting over on doctors, or finding a “community”, and claiming ED “recovery” while being far from recovered.
Ok so (and sorry for assuming) what I understand is that this girl used to be very sick with an ED. She has since recovered but now pretends to still have an ED despite being clearly overweight. However there is speculation she still exhibits ED behavior and that's why she has a feeding tube.
Well could the reason for Dani being overweight just due to the fact that many, many women gain weight as they age for a variety of reasons and of course when u factor in that she had a ED the docs already know she’s BS-ing them but just for shits & giggles they just continue to let her think she needs the tube because it’s just better to give than face a lawsuit. If they attempted to remove said feeding tube of course.
People can be overweight and have an ED. Not all EDs are anorexia. Binge eating disorder is still an ED but it’s very likely people with it will be overweight. Sometimes people ‘recover’ from Anorexia but develop binge eating disorder as they try to navigate a normal relationship with food free a long period of deprivation.
In Dani’s case; read below for her TPN journey . She’s recovered weight, but not her mental health. Everything she eats/ drinks seems to be junk or high sugar. EG dipping apples in caramel or drinking massive ice coffees (despite not being able to handle TPN, apparently).
Edited for corrections!
Dani was actually not put on TPN due to her anorexia.
Dani claims to be in recovery from her ED for 6 years. She has only been on TPN the past couple of years. She has been weight restored for quite a while.
She chased a feeding tube for years after claiming to be recovered from her ED - going as far as buying and inserting her own NG tube. Her local doctors wouldn't give in - partly because of her history with ED. After some doctor shopping she found a less than stellar doctor who by her own report didn't actually listen or spend a significant amount of time with her. That doctor got tired of her whining and gave her a feeding tube. She tried to "fail" tube feeds with him and he wouldn't do anything else so she moved on to Penn. She conned Penn into giving her TPN (likely creating a sob story about how she was hours from their hospital, neglected by the local doctors, and without a car or support system - so please don't send her home without a source of nutrition).
She may be weight restored but she is definitely not recovered. She just hides her ED under the guise of GP these days.
Ohhh I didn’t realise she’d only been on it a couple years! I’ve been on IF/IFGW since 2019 so must’ve joined just after she was prescribed it. Also the state of her Machine and the awful hello kitty sticker on it made me think she’d had it years and years bc it’s very young compared to her actual age. I’ve edited my comment to signpost to yours.
But yeah, definitely not recovered. I wonder how she justifies her weight gain/TPN intolerance inconsistencies to herself
No problem! Everything in Dani's presence seems to age quickly. She has been on tube feeds for about 3 years or so and TPN for about 2. I have been "following" her for a while (before the sub was created) and she fascinates me partly because she is a great example of how once a munchie gets their hand on one "accessory" it becomes a lot easier for it to snowball and for them to end up with the feeding tube/central line/TPN package. Dani tried to get doctors to give her a feeding tube for years with no success. Her test results have never supported the need for a feeding tube. She doctor shopped and found a doctor doing some sort of study on gastric stimulators (and not a great track record with them) and immediately got that. She just complained it didn't work until it was turned up to the max and then she whined some more and the doctor gave her a surgical feeding tube without even doing an NG trial (she would report that the doctor didn't listen to her and would spend like 5 minutes total with her). Once she got the feeding tube the rest came more quickly and more easily.
I think Dani is partly in denial about her weight gain/inconsistencies (hence she continues to cram herself into clothes that don't fit properly/are not suited for her current body type). She has never been able to explain why she can't tolerate 10ml of specially broken down formula going directly into her intestines over an hour but can drink beverages orally - where 1 sip is over 10 ml and has to travel her entire "broken" GI system. I think she just repeats the "every body is different" line that munchies love. She will claim the doctors want her to eat orally because "use it or lose it" - although i doubt the mean chug a class of chocolate milk or eat the crap she does. She only hears what she wants to hear. She gets very defensive when anyone, including medical professionals mention her weight and has tried to get the doctors to weigh her less because its "triggering" - it probably is but I think its also because she doesn't want the doctors to see the weight gain because it gives away the fact that she can eat orally.
Thank you again and that totally makes sense if she’s eating more calories on top of the carefully managed calories. It’s unreal to me that these munchies want things like toobs and ports etc which is essentially an open wound and makes them more susceptible to infection and death. Maybe that’s what they’re going for, “I was so sick that one time I died, what do I win?”
some people are stuck in the past. i'm not white knighting dani. but a lot of people are stuck in the past
I love how Dani truly does not give a fuck about the well-being of other people. She repeatedly brings up old pictures of herself at her sickest (which can be triggering) and if you watch the video she mentions her lowest weight. The whole video reeks of her trying to act like or prove that she was “the sickest.” Yes I understand the feeling of maybe wanting to feel like the “sickest” because I have an ed, but there’s no WAY you would catch me making a tiktok of all the places I’ve gone for treatment with my weight and details. Multiple people have pointed this behavior out to her and told her it’s problematic yet she STILL does it. On an app that’s targeted towards a younger demographic. She should be ashamed of herself.
ESPECIALLY since she also claims “years” of recovery. Lying to yourself in such a profound manner while claiming recovery is, like, multi dimensional lies, and so incredibly far from what recovery really means. She’s 100% too old, and too experienced with what recovery means to still be pulling this manipulative bull💩.
I am thankful she didn't pair it with pictures taken during each stay.
I’m thankful for treatment centers and most of those who work there, but to obsess about the time that was spent there on a daily basis isn’t healthy, and it’s very much the ED version of being a “dry drunk”. Treatment (residential, PHP, and IOP) can be great places for people to stabilise behaviors, start the process the reasons for the ED behaviors (in my experience, trauma is a pretty common reason, as is depression and anxiety), and to start addressing the nutrition aspect of ED recovery, but once someone is discharged, that’s where the hard work is—the using tools, coping skills, and support people.
But to focus so much time and mental energy on my time in treatment is a waste. Learn the lessons from there and be grateful that it was there when you needed it, sure, but to carry the whole experience around and long for it is a bit…. much
As a former drunk myself and have a hard time aligning EDs with it, “dry drunk” really works here.
Also, one can avoid alcohol without too much difficulty, but food is another and I know it makes recovery WAAY harder (hat tip to you who’ve done it!). Seems Dani just avoids eating behaviors by using TPN and stupid slow feed rates and eats junk when she wants; a pretty good gig for her
You nailed it with “dry drunk”.
I saw a documentary about some women in Renfrew.
Yeah the HBO documentary on YouTube, very sad and interesting.
Renfrew is a terrible place. It only exacerbated my ED. I honestly believe they are just there to take money from insurance and keep people sick.
Just wondering what eating disorder does she have?
Doesn’t qualify for anorexia.
I think anorexia, purging subtype
Hey there, I’m sorry that other person who commented was so nasty. I’ve been struggling with an ed for a long time (I am somewhat in recovery now) and I’m sorry you’re struggling too. It can feel very scary and lonely. If you ever want to chat, you can talk to me about this and about how to get help (but no pressure). But, to ease your mind, they probably will not force you to be hospitalized.
Dani is 100% dealing with an active ED. She is definitely weight restored but that doesn’t mean her ED is gone (despite her claiming years of recovery). The only difference is that now Dani hides her ED behavior by blaming it on gastroparesis. She is still restricting her calories (refusing to run her tube feeds over the insanely low rate of 10 ml/hr) and she is still purging (just claiming she is venting her g-tube as well as purposefully eating foods she knows will cause her to vomit). And in her need to tell herself she is super sick and frail she is continuing to use the unnecessary TPN which shouldn’t be used long term and will eventually mess with her internal organs.
Dani is no longer underweight. Dani claims to be recovered from an ED. Dani very much still has an active ED and she is lying to herself and to everyone else when she claims to be recovered.
This is what you’re meant to share with your doctors and therapists, not publicly announce it for imaginary clout.
Imagine being almost 40 and still bragging about stuff like this?! Id be mortified if anyone found out i went to a treatment center.
I am 54 and still struggle with EDs. It’s so embarrassing because I have been through treatment many times and I’m still not better.
I never said adults don't have eating disorders. Bragging about treatment centers is something a 13 year old does.
Your “name” all I can think of is OUCH!
Agreed here. Middle age and here I am.
Same! Only 27 but I’ve had so so many relapses. My mum‘s the same. But it’s nothing to be embarrassed about! EDs are mean, sneaky and horrible illnesses. Don’t give up the fight! I’ve known quite a few people who fully recovered. So one day this will be us!
Please don’t be embarrassed. You are suffering, and trying your best, that is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Getting help isn't anything to be mortified about though? And comments like that are why so many people still won't get help.
Where does i say not to get help? Nowhere. Only about broadcasting your stays thinking its an accomplishment is childish. There's no reason for everyone in my life to know where, how many times and how long i was forced into being tubed. Its not an accomplishment.
Lol, you're reading things in my comment that aren't there and getting mad at nothing.
Seriously? I’d be mortified if I was bragging about all of them I went to like it’s super cool, but no one has any reason for seeking treatment for something that could kill them or their mental health. It’s nothing to be mortified about, and no one, not even you, is better then someone who has gotten better through treatment centers. Please think about what saying that gives off. No one should think going to treatment is embarrassing.
This is spot on. Be proud of seeking help and your recovery process absolutely but to splay your collection of stays out like they’re Pokémon cards and you gotta catch ‘em all shows a certain lack of self awareness and maturity.
This is a weird take... it’s not mortifying to have had an ED and gone to treatment. It’s a mental illness not a character flaw.
I don’t think being in a treatment center itself is mortifying. Also, people sharing their experiences with it shouldn’t feel mortified. But there’s a time and place.. gotta read the room.
Dani should be mortified because of the way she behaves as a grown woman. Listing off your treatment centers for munchie points is something a 15 year old would do.
It shows instability. Having a job and career requires stability. If my employer discovered i was forced to be tubed a few times id be fired. No one wants to employ someone that could disappear for 6 months with no warning with completely different measurements. I never said not to get treatment. Only that gloating about it is disgusting and childish. It isn't a competition. Someones disorder isn't less valid because they only did 1 week or 30 days or 90 days. That's what this is. She's trying to say that her is more valid because she was in longer than the person she's replying to.
Firing you because you’ve been “forced to be tubed a few times” would be absolutely illegal. The only scenario I can think of where that would make sense would be if you were working in an eating disorder clinic and actively being forced to undergo eating disorder treatment while working there. Undergoing eating disorder treatment in the past does not “show instability.” But you’re right that gloating about treatment is disgusting and childish, not to mention completely triggering as all get out.
And even then most clinics will give you a second chance if you’re showing that you’re working on it and committed to recovery. My partner’s family all works in residential treatment for various things (some drugs, some alcoholics, some EDs) and many of them have fallen off the wagon once or twice but their job is always waiting for them once they do the work and are ready to come back.
She wants us to believe she is recovered but then she pulls crap like this - basically a weird attempt at bragging about her super serious ED.
She frequently makes posts like this or ones where she just shares her old body check photos.
There is no point to these posts other than to try to brag. They aren't educational. She isn't helping anyone (or herself) with these posts. If anything, I imagine they could be triggering for other people who are dealing with an ED.
Dani is a 35 year old woman who claims to be recovered for 6 years. She should no better than to post crap like this. This is immature attention seeking behavior that just reminds everyone that despite the fact that Dani claims to be recovered and despite the fact that Dani is clearly weight restored - SHE STILL HAS AN ACTIVE EATING DISORDER!
It’s a brag fest and a half! Very recognisable as one to anyone who’s had an eating disorder or is familiar with treating them. A lot of people make humble brags about the length of their treatment stays and how close to death they were each one to try to show how “successful” of an anorexic they were.
I strongly guess a lot of her continuing “I need TPN, can’t digest half a sip of anything” act is also part of humble bragging that she was such a successful anorexic that she managed to permanently ruin her digestive system.
Eating disorders in many people (not all) are highly competitive and it’s easy to invalidate your own struggles if you see someone was in treatment for longer than you or had worse lasting health consequences than you. Dani almost certainly knows what she’s doing in making posts like this and how they could encourage someone with an eating disorder to not get help or to worsen their descent into the disorder.
I know this is getting long but just to clarify, I didn’t mean by my above competition comment that most people with eating disorders try to one up each other constantly obnoxiously. But moreso that in your own mind, you’re often thinking “this person is sicker/thinner/needs more help than me”.
Yep. It's sad. Wonder how much of her tube feeds she really does and what she eats orally ....
I am really hoping her new job and 'promotion' go well for her.
She had a promotion at her new job?????
She posted recently that she was promoted to "Full time lead" at work. I don't think it is any indicator of how well she is doing her job. A week or so ago she mentioned that she interviewed for a new job/second job because her manager/boss at work got a new job and indicated that she could work there too. She likely was just given the manager's job - retail stores are struggling to hire new people (hence they are willing to give Dani a chance). Granted, while she may not have "earned" the position, more hours might be good for her - keep her focused on something else. It must have been her day off the past day or so because she went from very few posts to her usual crappy ED glorifying/TPN administration garbage.
Her keeping her tube feed rate ridiculously low (under 10 ml/hour) is just another way of her restricting calories. She administers the TPN as directed (unlike some other munchies hiding their ED behind physical diseases) - probably because in her mind TPN is a sign that she is just too sick and frail for any other form of nutrition - its the last resort form of nutrition). She definitely eats garbage and drinks tons of low-calorie energy drink chemical crap. But she tries to purge her oral intake through her tube and eats things she claims make her violently ill (aka things she can purge). She is 100% still actively engaged in her ED.
I think the job is a good step for her - she has been posting less but today she is on a roll with her attention seeking bs. I don’t think the promotion is anything truly special - she mentioned the person working above her got a new job (and she tried to interview to go with them) so I am guessing she was basically promoted out of necessity - people aren’t eager to apply for crappy minimum wage jobs that put you in direct contact with customers - especially with covid cases starting to rise again in many areas. But the job hopefully gives her something else to focus on beside being an attention seeking wackadoo online.
I feel like her keeping her tube feed rate so low moreso serves to make it seem to others like “it’s so bad” rather than just a way to restrict calories
Which ED is she still active in? Bulimia? Or BED?
She was diagnosed with anorexia with purging subtype. She continues to restrict calories and purge - she has just found a medical way to do so.
Could you explain to me why you think this is OK to say? Obviously you are taking a dig at Dani's size, which is inappropriate to begin with, but knowing they have an eating disorder makes it appalling.
I didn’t at all think it was “ok” to say. I’m clouded by my own ED thoughts, and reacted before I thought. It’s appalling, I agree, which is why I deleted the comment.
Fair enough. Thanks for sharing your head space. I have my own ED issues and can totally relate on how easily these kinds of thoughts come to us. I'm sure you can see how triggering your original comment could be to someone struggling.