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Anyone else worried that more people will homeschool long-term because of the pandemic?

Anyone else worried that more people will homeschool long-term because of the pandemic?

frogcat122333

i think this is happening. i was looking at the main homeschool subreddit out of curiosity recently, and a ton of posts were talking about how due to covid they will be homeschooling their children for the foreseeable future. and everyone on that sub keeps repeating the same pieces of advice to the new homeschoolers about how "you don't need to do school every day don't be discouraged if your kids don't learn anything! and you can incorporate lessons into everyday life". basically what every neglectful homeschool parent ends up telling themselves. i feel bad for the kids


Most_Mathematician_5

Absolutely fucking terrified. The only hope is that legislators see what's happening and pass some sort of accountability bill. I don't think it's likely they'll ban it altogether unfortunately, but if the right people take notice I could imagine a few blue states requiring stricter record-keeping and regular check-ins with the local school system


KKmmaarriiee

I work at a school that also has a homeschooling program. (In fact, it was the same program I was homeschooled through, which luckily required my mom to report all our grades and turn in all our work, and allowed me to receive a real diploma and transcript.) Of course, it all comes down to HOW the parent conducts their kids’ education… More and more of our families that switched to the home education program (or HEP, as my school calls it) “due to Covid” are now staying in HEP despite our main programs going fully back on campus. There are a couple families in particular that I worry about from a social and educational standpoint who have decided to stay in HEP. I don’t think the HEP at my school is a particularly bad one, as far as homeschool programs go; the extra documentation and real transcripts that are accepted by colleges are huge pluses, in fact. But I would say most parents in general are just not equipped to give their kids the education they really need, and I don’t think there is any way to truly give your child a healthy social life in ANY homeschool program.


Most_Mathematician_5

Part of the value in having a public school system isn't even the education, it's the common experience you get from going through a struggle with your peers. I think this is why homeschool parents are typically friendless losers themselves - the idea of bonding with strangers over a common struggle is something completely incomprehensible to them. And the value stays even if you completely lose touch with all your friends and acquaintances after school because relationships don't need to exist forever in order for them to have a permanent impact on you. The HEP program you describe sounds like a huge step forward from traditional homeschooling where parents do nothing aside from maybe give you a textbook to read on your own time. But you're still 100% right that most parents aren't up to the task, and it can never be a full substitute for public education.


KKmmaarriiee

You’re absolutely right. I will never not feel like I missed out on that feeling of having a common struggle with someone like you described. But yes, while I wish beyond everything that my parents hadn’t homeschooled me, I will always be grateful that AT LEAST they did it through that program. It makes me so sad reading other users’ posts in this sub about how fucked their educations were because their parents didn’t put in the effort, because that’s one area my parents DID put effort in, due to the requirements of that program (and because of their feelings of superiority over all public schools for some reason, but that’s a whole can of worms). But yeah, I definitely wish that if homeschooling HAD to exist in this world, that more of it could have looked similar to that HEP since it at least gives students a better chance to succeed academically. (Edited to remove extra word)


torisnowbunting

>I think this is why homeschool parents are typically friendless losers themselves This \*perfectly\* describes my biological "mother" and the few "homeschool mom" friends she had, all socially isolated low achievers who seemed to have never developed a healthy adult sense of personal identity that didn't revolve around their children/parenting. I didn't realize that the parental isolation/lack of friends was such a common thing in homeschool family dynamics though. I've always had difficulties maintaining friendships with multiple people, and it took me a long time to realize that it's because I never learned to do that during my formative years.


ConsumeMeGarfield

My mom was also a deeply traumatized person herself who couldn't keep friends or socialize very well. My dad was a loner. I never had anything or anyone to look to in my life that taught me good social behaviors. No wonder I was so fucked up when I left home.


torisnowbunting

Deeply traumatized "mom" (in her case, coming from a family home with a lot of domestic violence and her mother dying at a young age) incapable of socializing properly with others who largely alienated potential friends with her behaviour + introverted, largely absent dad who absorbed himself in work (and, in my case, avoided having anything to do with childrearing) was exactly my family dynamic growing up. I'm so sorry you had that experience too.


BlueDemeter

If it’s any consolation, I was homeschooling my kids before Covid, but reading the stories on here kicked my @ss. I’ll be sending them to public school if/when Covid ever dies down in my area, at least for math and science, or full time if they like it. We live in a crappy little podunk town with not much to do except sports and church. I was bullied here as a teenager, so I wanted to spare them that experience, but maybe they’ll fare better than I did. They have neighbor friends they play with, soccer, and we’re not religious (unlike most people here), but yeah. They’re going to public school as soon as we don’t need to worry about getting Covid because no one here masks up or takes basic precautions.


Claretect

You’re the best! How open minded of you to let a bunch of strangers change your mind


Akruu1

you’re a good person


Pale___twigs

There was a trend towards increasing numbers of homeschoolers already, but the pandemic and current political situation will probably increase those numbers. On the other hand, the average person now has some idea of what it takes to educate your kids at home and I think the average bystander will be more skeptical of people who continue to homeschool. There will also probably be more scrutiny from the mainstream press. Overall I think it will work out in our favor in the long run.


Bananas_Of_Paradise

I don't know. I don't like my upbringing, but I don't know if I should blame it on homeschooling or my parents, so I've never developed a negative attitude towards homeschooling itself. I understand why people want to homeschool and wish them the best. But my perspective may be too biased to come to an impartial conclusion that homeschooling is either good or bad.


RhythmPrincess

I’ve seen so many people on Twitter say it, and as a public school teacher, I get it to some extent. I have too many students to teach the extremes of my class. I’m just worried because the people that do it for religious reasons are deluded if they think I’m pushing any other agenda than taking care of their kids and trying to give them SOME grasp of English. The parents I know who pulled their kids out of a dangerous, overcrowded public school and have the resources and time to get their kids tutoring and dance in the evening are probably okay, but the ones who are pushing fundamentalist evangelical Christianity and stripping their kids of socialization scare me.


KillerWhaleShark

I think this trend will face a huge setback when jobs become more stable again. There are lots of moms who were forced to stay home when so many schools closed, and it’s really hard to get back in the workforce when you have a gap (especially one that says you put kids before work) and when the pandemic is still going strong. Once the workforce opens back up, I can see a lot of the homeschoolers returning to school.


Akruu1

I’m horrified. The HSLDA is one of the worst organizations to exist.


allizzia

I'm very very worried. Homeschool isn't that much accepted by authorities in my country and still it boomed and each day there's more people starting to homeschool. Most families aren't that much aware of the importance of socialization without parents present and think they can Google everything they need to be pseudo teachers.


mrsbiblioctopus

I've definitely noticed a huge trend towards homeschooling in my area. We did it last year and, unfortunately, again this year because they can't get vaccinated yet and one is at higher risk. It was the best of the worst options. I hate knowing that they're going to be behind when they go back, but we've been keeping in close contact with their principal and we work every day. We'll hire tutors and do whatever it takes to get them back up to where they need to be when they go back. I'm worried about some of the kids from our district who've been pulled because there is absolutely zero oversight here.


Few_Illustrator8127

yeah fr, I saw some articles with people saying they would permanently pull their kids out of school cause it was so easy