A Breath of Fresh Air and a Narcissistic Mother
By - astersage97
I feel like my mom was proud of me but mostly in the sense that she was proud she "educated" me well enough to go. Nevermind the fact that I educated myself alone from grade 8-12 or the fact that I studied psychology instead of some kind of stem field or whatnot. I had no idea how to pick a college program or even the different options I could have had aside from a four-year college.
You could check out r/raisedbynarcissists it helped me alot to see so many other people going through similar situation s. Im also homeschooled and it has been torture ever since we were pulled from school.
My mom tried to take credit for my bachelor's degree, even after I was basically no contact with her for most of the time I was in school AND had been educating myself all through high school. She felt like the only reason I was able to even graduate college was because of her efforts, when in reality, she clocked out of teaching me back in middle school.
There's an incredibly strong correlation between narcissists and their decision to homeschool. I think it has to do with control. Congratulations on your degree and I wish you the best!
I’m so glad you were able to get out of all that, and congratulations on your degree!!!!!!! I’m still working towards mine. Good luck in your future endeavors!! :D
My parents also were involved are fundamentalist clothes and our life pretty much revolved around Church. No TV, no secular music, no books that weren't approved by my parents.
I got my masters in 2013 and I've been a classroom teacher for 14 years. It took so much hard work but the thing that annoyed me the most was my mom then trying to take credit for my accomplishments. I don't talk to her anymore.
>Wow… How amazing it is to see a group of people who experienced a similar upbringing as me! Like many of you, I was homeschooled from K-12th grade. My parents reasons for homeschooling was to “shelter us from the world,” “the school system in our county was too bad” yadda yadda yadda. I grew up in an extremely religious family. Everything we did revolved around Jesus. The majority of my social outings were going to church. From the time that i was 10 until I was 16 we went to an extremely fundi church (think Duggar’s, bates, welcome to plathville.) we wore the long skirts, made butter out of goats milk, knitted, and made bread for fun. Thankfully my parents eventually left that particular church, but my mom still believes many of the things that the church taught.
> She doesn’t believe that the Duggars are apart of a cult. Lmao. I have always been the “black sheep” of the family. I believe it’s because I have always kind of seen through the bullshit. As soon as I turned 18 I got a job and enrolled in a community college. Ofc it was difficult because I had been robbed of my education. My mom pretty much gave up on educating us when we entered the 9th grade. The last textbook that I can remember her purchasing was some kind of Amish English /math/ science book. We never took tests, never took quizzes and for English we would write thank you notes… by the grace of god I am about to graduate with my bachelors degree from a liberal arts college and my mother could care less.
>I do not think that she even knows what degree I am graduating with because any time I talk about college she is so uninterested that I might as well be talking to a blank wall. My mother is extremely narcissistic. My relationship with my mom has always been shitty; that is a whole other story in itself. I guess my reason for posting is just to vent a little. Do at of you have similar stories? For those of you that went to college how did your parents respond? Were they proud of you, or did they seem resentful?
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